Financial Independence

Financial Experts

Be Wary Of So-Called Financial Experts

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There is a reason why Warren Buffet said to be “fearful when others are greedy, and greedy when others are fearful.” The reason is simple, so-called financial experts do not necessarily know what they are talking about most of the time. In effect, it has been shown that a monkey can pick stocks better than a financial expert. Yes, a monkey is a better stock picker than an institution paid a percentage of your portfolio. If financial experts were foolproof, they would beat the market every year, but this is simply not the case. This is also the reason why index funds are the safest bet to have consistent growth over time. So-called financial experts of the stock market are typically no better than you and I at gaging what will happen next.

Stop & Think

In life, whenever a large group is running to the left, stop and ask why. Do your due diligence and investigate whether or not these individuals are going that way in view of reason or an irrational drive to follow the heard. In most circumstances, the answer is herd mentality. Someone with name recognition will make a statement, others will be too lazy to do their due diligence and instead parrot the earlier person’s statement. This then occurs over and over again and soon you have a group of individuals moving in the same direction without a concrete reason to do so. This is particularly problematic when the individuals that are irrationally moving are also in positions of power. You end up with irrational acts leading to longterm detrimental effects.

Economic Movements

Just think back. How many financial experts called the great recession? How many financial experts predicted the sustained bull market following covid lock downs? The answer is not too many individuals. If you go back and take a look, most so-called experts where shouting from the roof tops about a sustained bull market back in 2007. When covid-19 hit, many financial experts were calling for a massive recession as a result of the lock downs. In both cases, the opposite actually occurred. 

If experts are calling for a specific economic activity to occur, the more fervor they have, the more likely it seems that the event will not occur. When the majority is looking for a recession, there may be a dip, but just wait for the bull market. When the majority is calling for a bull market, it is only a matter of time before the market falls. The point is, it is your money that you are playing with, do your own due diligence. Make informed money decisions by doing your own investigation into the matters at hand. 

Do not be a lemming. Do not turn over your life savings to an expert and sit back in the hopes that they will do what is right for you. It is your money. No matter who you choose to manage your money, you should also play an active roll in the actions taken with your money and how it is allocated. If you do not take an active roll in your financial security, do no be surprise to find that your money is not being managed in the way that you would want or like.

Financial Experts

This is not to say that experts should be ignored. If qualified, they are experts for a reason. They have the requisite knowledge and qualifications. This is to say that while experts may know more than you do about a subject, you should still take an active role in your money management. Trust but verify. In the end, it is your money.

Conclusion

Warren Buffet said to be “fearful when others are greedy, and greedy when others are fearful.” The reason for this statement is simple, do not follow the herd. A blindfolded monkey beats humans with stock picks. As such, keep in mind that some financial experts do not necessarily know what they are talking about most of the time. Be an active participant in the management of your money. Trust but verify. Educate yourself and do your due diligence. Do not be a lemming when it comes to how your money is managed. Actively participate in the management of your money and your journey to financial independence.

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Financial literacy

Financial Literacy Is Important

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Without a basic understanding of simple financial concepts, good luck. It will be almost impossible to achieve your financial objectives. Everyday we make decisions about banking, budgeting, saving, credit, debt, and investing. Financial literacy enables you to make informed financial decisions that will propel you toward financial stability and achieving your financial goals.

Financial Literacy

There is currently no one definition for financial literacy. However, generally, financial literacy is the ability to understand and use personal financial management, budgeting, and investing to your financial advantage.  Simply put, financial literacy is having the knowledge to know what to do in a financial sense. This does not necessarily mean that every financial decision will result in success. But over time, it is likely that you will improve your financial situation.

Why Is Financial Literacy Important

Financial literacy is important because it results in budgeting, being prepared for emergencies, and limiting debt. These are the financial forces that we deal with on a daily basis. But more importunely, the financial decisions we make today compounds. The decisions we make today are more important than ever because of the limited safety net available for retirement. 

Most pension plans have been replaced by 401Ks. Unlike pension plans, 401K plans leave the bulk of the decision making and planning to the employee. Without proper financial knowledge, many will be saddled with debt and be ill-prepared for retirement. 

Lack Of Financial Literacy Is Expensive

Not being financially literate is expensive. Some consequences of lacking financial literacy appears in everyday life. These consequences show themselves in increase costs that can be locked in for decades. For example, higher transaction fees, banking charges, higher interest rates on debt, and loses in the stock market. Financial ignorance also compounds as you will not understanding the concept of  compounding. Compounding in view of debt and also in view of income/interest. In a recent survey, it is estimated that financial illiteracy costed Americans about $353 Billion in 2021 alone. That is a crazy amount of money. That is a nontrivial amount of funds.

The Solution

The solution to lack of financial literacy is simple, educate yourself. It is to you and your family’s benefit to be financially literate. Financial decisions not only affect you, but also those around you. 

Financial education resources are available. Best of all, a lot of the information is free. You have this blog as an example and hundreds of others that you can subscribe to or follow. If you want to learn the thoughts of the biggest financial titans in the world today, just search for it. Financial literacy comes down to how important it is to you. Believe me, it should be at the top of your to do list.

For the same reasons why a coach is likely not the best player on a team, financial literacy alone will not be enough to win the financial game of life. Knowledge alone is not enough.

Financial Literacy Alone Is Not Enough

While financial literacy is important, it is not enough. To achieve your financial goals, you need a climate that facilitates wealth generation. This means that the country/jurisdiction that you are in has to facilitate wealth generation. You have to have access to tools and resources to build wealth.  For example, in starting a business,  you need to have/have access to capital, general money management, supply chain and transportation infrastructure. Financial literacy alone will not overcome infrastructure deficiencies.

Financial education is important, but you must also tackle your beliefs and attitude toward money. Having the financial knowledge alone will not change your attitude.

Additionally, having knowledge does not mean taking action. You, yes you have to take action. You have to put your plans in motion. Start today. Take action. Use money  as a tool and other resources around you to move toward your financial goals.

Conclusion

Everyday we make decisions about banking, budgeting, saving, credit, debt, and investing. Financial literacy enables you to make informed financial decisions that will propel you toward financial stability and achieving your financial goals.

Below, is the reproduced S&P Global FinLit Survey. Take the test. Answers are given below. Are you financially literate?

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Financial Literacy Test (S&P Global FinLit Survey)

RISK DIVERSIFICATION

  • 1. Suppose you have some money. Is it safer to put your money into one business or investment, or to put your money into multiple businesses or investments? 
    1. one business or investment; 
    2. multiple businesses or investments; 
    3. don’t know

INFLATION

  • 2. Suppose over the next 10 years the prices of the things you buy double. If your income also doubles, will you be able to buy less than you can buy today, the same as you can buy today, or more than you can buy today? 
    1. less; 
    2. the same; 
    3. more; 
    4. don’t know

NUMERACY (INTEREST)

  • 3. Suppose you need to borrow 100 US dollars. Which is the lower amount to pay back: 105 US dollars or 100 US dollars plus three percent? 
    1. 105 US dollars; 
    2. 100 US dollars plus three percent; 
    3. don’t know

COMPOUND INTEREST

  • 4. Suppose you put money in the bank for two years and the bank agrees to add 15 percent per year to your account. Will the bank add more money to your account the second year than it did the first year, or will it add the same amount of money both years? 
    1. more; 
    2. the same; 
    3. don’t know
  • 5. Suppose you had 100 US dollars in a savings account and the bank adds 10 percent per year to the account. How much money would you have in the account after five years if you did not remove any money from the account? 
    1. more than 150 dollars; 
    2. exactly 150 dollars; 
    3. less than 150 dollars; 
    4. don’t know.

A person is typically defined as financially literate when he or she correctly answers at least three out of the four financial concepts described above. What was your result?

Answers: 1(2), 2(2), 3(2), 4(1), 5(1).

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Tithe Yourself

Tithe Yourself Now

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Let us start by saying that this posting has nothing to do with religion. This posting focuses on tithing yourself. More specifically, from every paycheck, pay yourself first. Tithe yourself. Ensure that you are taking at least 10% from your paycheck and directing that portion to a personal account. If you do not tithe yourself, someone else will have a claim to your money. You work hard for your paycheck, why have others take a share before you do?

Tithe Yourself

The word tithe in Hebrew literally means tenth. By tithing yourself, we mean automatically taking at least 10% of your paycheck off the top and directing this amount to a personal account. Some folks religiously tithe to a church but often forget about tithing to themselves. It is important for your financial future that you tithe yourself.

When beginning on a journey to save or to establish an emergency fund, you may not be able to tithe 10% to yourself. Start small and build from there. The first step is to start. Once you start and begin to build a habit of tithing yourself, move on from just tithing yourself to tithing as much as you can to yourself. Aim to increase your tithing percentage up to 10% and once you hit the 10% mark, aim for 15% and beyond.

Tithe Yourself – Pay Yourself First

Tithe yourself is to encourage you to pay yourself first. You should pay yourself first because if you do not, you run the risk of not paying yourself at all. For example, after paying your bills and spending discretionarily, how much of your paycheck do you have remaining? If you have money left over, it does not take much for all that money to disappear due to frivolous spending? 

Many times, living above your means and going into debt can result when you do not pay yourself first. If you do not pay yourself first, it is likely that you will not budget and over spend, or you will simply spend what you have because you have not assigned a task to that money.

By paying yourself first, you will force yourself to live below your means and budget accordingly. By paying yourself first, you are assigning a task to every dollar that you make. Imagine upfront knowing that 10% of your paycheck is off limits. By reframing your paycheck this way, you know that you are limited to 90% of your paycheck. This means that all of your bills must be paid by this amount. Can you pay rent/mortgage, phone, cable, internet, subscriptions, power, and whatever other bills you may have from this amount? If the answer is yes, increase the amount of your paycheck that you are paying yourself. If the answer is no, you will be forced to cut back. You will be forced to make hard decisions. But trust me, it is worth it. Saving for your financial future is worth it. Tithing yourself is worth it.

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You Are Not Being Selfish

It may sound selfish when it is said to pay yourself first or to tithe yourself. However, if you do not pay yourself first, you are always putting yourself behind someone else. You are putting your bills ahead of your financial future. You are also putting the temptation of instant gratification ahead of the delay gratification that will benefit your future. Instead of having others having a claim to your money, claim it as your own. You worked hard for it, so keep it and grow it to the betterment of you and your family.

If you still think that tithing yourself is selfish, then sometimes in life, you need to look out for yourself and your financial future. Because the simple fact is, if you fall on hard times, it is unlikely that there will be many people lining up to pay your bills or to house your family.

Conclusion

This posting focuses on tithing yourself. More specifically, from every paycheck, pay yourself first. Tithe yourself. Ensure that you are taking at least 10% from your paycheck and directing that portion to a personal account. For example, a personal investment account or a personal savings account. If you do not tithe yourself, someone else will have a claim to your money. You work hard for your paycheck, why have others take a share before you do? Reward yourself for your hard work by saving for your financial future.

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Why Lottery Winners Go Broke

Why Lottery Winners Go Broke

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Ever since I understood the concept that buying a lottery ticket gives you the chance of winning millions, I wanted to win the lottery. As I got older, I realized that the probability of winning was extremely low, as such, I rarely ever play. When I do play, I see it as a donation to the State’s education system as a percentage of the lottery usually funds education. For the lucky few who plays and wins, congratulations. However, for winners there is happiness, that is typically followed by sorrow and many times tragedy. It makes you wonder, why does such tragedy follow many lottery winners? Looking at the financial side, why do lottery winners go broke?

Lottery Winners Go Broke Because Of Inexperience Money

A lot of lottery winners are not math or financial whiz. The fact is, the more educated you are, the less likely you are to play the lottery. It is simple, you understand that the odds of winning is extremely low and as such you do not play.

Those who win the lottery, tends to be those playing the lottery which is in effect proportionally not the most educated with regard to finances. Most lottery winners have the issue of having a large sum of money and not knowing how to maintain it. 

Many lottery winners fall prey to their wildest financial dreams. The dream of having one or more mac mansions, new expensive cars and other toys that are wanted but not needed. With a scarcity mentality, many lottery winners are frivolous with lottery winnings. Some winners see their winnings as “free money” to be spent. While individual purchases may not put a dent in the overall winnings, they can quickly add up if winners don’t keep a close eye on what they are spending. A bigger home comes with a bigger bill to upkeep. Luxury cars come with larger insurance and repair bills.

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The Payout Is Not As Much As You Think

When taking the payout from the lottery, winners usually have a choice. The choice is typically between taking a lump-sum or a fixed payment overtime. If you take the lump-sum, sometimes it is only around 60-75% of the advertised prize. This can leave winners with a lot less money than they expected. Then do not forget about the taxes. In most jurisdictions, lottery winnings are taxed. As such, in the end, while you will have a huge sum of money, the sum may not be as large as others think it is. Therefore, it may be bit more difficult to rebuff family and friends when they falsely believe that you have a lot more than you actually do.

Lottery Winners Go Broke Because Everyone Knows That You Won

In many places, a condition of winning the lottery is that your name is made public. Many lotteries do require that basic information about winners are made public. For example, name, city and the amount won.

When every one knows that you won millions of dollars, you will have long lost friends and family coming out of the woodwork. They will all come calling.  Many new lottery winners will not be well equipped to say no to friends and family. Once family and friends learn of the windfall, they will have expectations of what they should be entitled to.

But also, there are complete strangers who targets lottery winners. Some with sad stories, others with investment ideas and still others who aims to rob, maim or kill lottery winners.

Typically, lottery winners go broke as a result of a million cuts. One bad investment idea or falling for one sad story will likely not completely deplete the millions won. However, not paying attention and learning to manage your money will eventually lead to bankruptcy or worst.

Addiction

There is the saying that money does not buy happiness, it only amplifies who you are. A jerk before having a lot of money, will likely be a jerk with lots of money after winning the lottery. If you were previously prone to addiction prior to winning the lottery, now you are a wealthy individual who is prone to addition with the financial means to support that addiction. If you were an alcoholic before winning the lottery, you are now a very rich alcoholic. For those with addition issues or tendencies, winning the lottery and having the financial resources to support an addition habit is dangerous and can be deadly.

For those who cannot handle stress, winning the lottery will add a lot of stress. There is some stress that comes with having the money. You will like be stressed about how to maintain it, how to manage it, how to handle the constant requests for handouts, and how to face resentment (because it will come from family and friends). For many, alcohol and drugs are the remedies often sought with stress. It is not uncommon for many lottery winners to blow huge sums of their winnings on drugs and alcohol. At times, this is in an attempt to cope with their new lives as lottery winners.

Not Asking For Help

As mentioned above, many lottery winners were not finance majors in college. As such it is probably in their best interest to seek advice from qualified financial professionals. However, despite the fact that sudden wealth can cause lots of financial complications, very few lottery winners seek professional help. Very few lottery winners seek out professional advice on how to grow and or maintain their wealth. Without the requisite knowledge of how to manage such an instant inflow of funds, many lottery winners mismanage their money and go broke.

Conclusion

With winning the lottery or with any other instant financial windfall, be careful what you wish for. Many lottery winners go broke. By not being able to handle the stresses of winning the lottery, you could end up being a lottery winner that goes broke or worst.

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This Is Why Athletes Go Broke

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Over the years, for professional athletes, we have seen astronomical contracts that have repeatedly broken records. We have also seen the sobering news that many athletes go broke. At times, we may fall into the trap and think, how can you go broke after earning hundreds of millions of dollars? But do not forget, a lot of our sports stars are young and have never had the life experiences that would have taught them how to manage money and plan for the future. 

Athletes Go Broke Due To Short Careers

For most athletes, once they sign the big contact, the financial mistakes are immediate. Some begin spending in anticipation of the contract or is out spending once signed. This happens in some cases because like us, many athletes are aware of the superstars who have decades long careers. Many rookies believe that they will continue to play their respective sports for years to come, earning an ever increasing salary. But this is not the case.

For the National Basketball Association (NBA), the average player lasts around 4.5 years. Like many other sports, making it to the NBA is hard, staying there is even harder. For the National Football League (NFL), the average career length is about 3.3 years. Let’s take a deeper look at the NFL. On average kickers and punters last 4.9 years, quarterbacks last about 4.4 years, cornerbacks last about 2.9 years, wide receivers last about 2.8 years and running backs last a dismal 2.5 years. Those in the National Hockey League (NHL) fare a bit better and last around 5 years. The average career of a Major League Baseball (MLB) player is about 5.6 years, and soccer players have careers of about 8 years.

It is therefore unsurprising that the average retirement age for MLB players is about 29.5, 28.2 for NHL players, 28 for NBA players, and 27.6 for NFL players.

If you have no transferable skills, lack financial discipline and your career lasts only a few years, you will have financial problems. No wonder athletes go broke.

Athletes Go Broke Due To Their Contracts:

Not all sports contracts are created equal. In some leagues, it is normal for the contracts to be guaranteed, but this is not the case for others. So when a player signs a contract for hundreds of millions of dollars, depending on the league, they may never receive the full amount.

Players’ contracts are guaranteed in Major League Soccer (MLS). For the most part, NBA, MLB and NHL contracts are also fully guaranteed. However, this is not the case for the NFL. For many NFL players, only a portion of their contract is guaranteed. This is very troubling as the NFL has one of the shortest career spans of the major sports. NFL players are faced with only a few years on average of playing in the league and also not having guaranteed contracts. Don’t forget, as a contact sport, NFL players also have a very high risk of injury.

Young And Dumb

If you received 100 million dollars upon your 18th birthday, in ten years, would you have more or less. The fact is, for many of us, at the age of 18-25, our sense of money is to get it and spend it. For many, this is the period of time where we spend a lot of time trying to impress the opposite sex. 

With money, comes the expensive cars, clothing and homes. At this age, as hormones rage, it may be a matter of time before kids. For many professional athletes, kids occur outside of wedlock which leads to child support and crazy exes. Think of your twenties but to the extreme. The fact is, not many of us could manage money in our twenties.

For athletes, it is a bit worst. Everyone you know, knows that you have money. Everyone around you potentially will have their hands out or will be reaching into your pockets. For so many athletes, it was family, agents, accountants or friends that stole from them. It is no wonder about 78% of professional athletes go broke after 3 years of retirement. Some professional athletes stand very little chance of building wealth in view of the people that are around them.

Most professional athletes just do not realize until it is too late – your career will be short, and your savings must last for the rest of your life.

What Can We Learn

What we can learn from athletes is that it is not about how much money you have, it is about how much you keep and grow. If you have no financial background or do not know how to mange your money, it is likely that you will lose it. No matter if it is 10 dollars or 10 million dollars.

As you move through your career, or your many careers, learn to manage and grow your money. You should learn who to trust and set boundaries with friends and family to ensure that your financial future is secure. Be the CEO of your life and your financial position. It is your money so take responsibility for what happens to it.

Conclusion

Over the years, for professional athletes, we have seen astronomical contracts that have repeatedly broken records. We have also seen the sobering news that many athletes go broke. At times, we may fall in the trap and think, how can you go broke after earning hundreds of millions of dollars? But do not forget, a lot of our sports stars are young and have never had the life experiences that would have taught them how to manage money and plan for the future. 

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Jealous friends and your wealth

Jealous Friends And Your Wealth

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While you are focus on your financial objectives, you may lose sight of one very important aspect, your friends. Based on the people around you, can you or will you be able to truly enjoy your wealth? Would your friends be happy and congratulatory of you achieving your financial objectives? Put simply, do you have jealous friends. 

Here, the assumption is that you are not purposely flaunting your wealth to belittle your friends. If you are doing this, then you are the bad friend, and your friends should be distancing themselves from you.

Money Changes Friendships

It is understandable that as time progresses the dynamics of our relationships change. Some friends will grow with you while others will grow away from you. But for those that you aspire to be apart of your life for the near and foreseeable future, how will they react to your wealth or you achieving financial independence? 

You will likely believe or have heard the refrain that true friends will not care. But the fact is, this is wishful thinking. Money changes the dynamics of all relationships. Just do a general search on the internet and you will see what I am talking about. As you transition in life, few of your old life will be with you in your new life.

While I know this, I do hope for you and me, that we are able to navigate achieving our goals and continue to have current friends around us that cheers us on. 

Cheap

If your aim is to achieve financial independence and you have tried to balance your expenses by trying to limit your spending, you will be called cheap. You will hear it multiple times from certain friends who may not completely understand what you are doing. You will be mocked for wearing the same pants or shirts that you have had for years. You will have to endure others around you having newer things, but if you are really about attaining your goal, you will not care. 

But a funny thing happens as you get closer to your goals. All the mocking and jeering will fade away to real questions. How close are you to retiring? What do you think about this financial move, what do you think about that? Your friends will have real interest in what you are doing. They will want to get to where you are, but there is an issue. You have been sacrificing and working on this path for years while they are seeing the end results and wanting that result.

This is where issues may develop.

Real Friends

As your dreams begin to come true, your real friends will continue to cheer you on. 

What I am saying here is that if you are low key, you will continue to be low key. If you believe in stealth wealth, you will likely continue to do the same things with slight changes. If you have achieved financial independence, well, you may change jobs or begin to pursue other things. It is unlikely that you will tell your friends your net worth. However, your real friends will know that you have enough based on your actions.

But your other friends may not see it that way. They will say that you have changed. If you decide to upgrade after being frugal comments will be made. You may also be accused of thinking that you are better than others. Overtime, some friendships will become strained.

Resentment may come from comparison, sometimes it may be linked to your friends own self-esteem and the way they view themselves. Especially if you and that friend started at the same financial point or you were from a lower economic position but have now surpassed them.

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Really friends or jealous friends

Why You May Have Jealous Friends

Some friends will be jealous friends because they do not want to see others, not even a friend, do better than they are doing. Some jealous friends are jealous because they love to cause chaos. Misery loves company. But if you have friends who have been with you for a long time and they become that jealous friend, it could be a matter of envy because you had the confidence to take the risks and make the sacrifices to achieve your goals.

How To Solve Or Preempt Jealous Friends

To prevent jealous friends, be aware and have the tough conversations. As you embark on your journey to financial independence and early retirement, note that not everyone is on the same journey. Be conscious of this. While you may be ostracized at first, note that the lifestyle that you will build for your family will likely be the envy of others. 

Once you have achieved your goals, you will likely have amply free time and the financial resources to do as you choose. You will be able to travel, do a job that you want, and spend time with family. You will be able to more so do the things that will make you and your family happy. Who doesn’t want that? This is all while your friends are toiling at a job that they hate and potentially have a life that they do not want. Be conscientious of this. Be understanding.

When friends ask about what you are doing, try to be patient and explain, do not judge their lifestyles. Do not fall into the “I told you so” mantra. 

Above all, live your life as they live there’s and if a friendship needs to end, it needs to end. Do not put yourself or your family in a terrible situation to maintain a hostile friendship.

Conclusion

While you are focus on your financial objectives, you may lose sight of one very important aspect, your friends. Based on the people around you, can you or will you be able to truly enjoy your wealth? Would your friends be happy and congratulatory of you achieving your financial objectives? Put simply, do you have jealous friends. 

Whatever the situation, do what is best for you and your family.

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Friends

Friends Influence Your Success And Wealth

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Show me your five closest friends and I can provide a very accurate description of you. The fact of the matter is that the friends we have not only tells us who we are generally. Our friends influence who we are and who we will become. Yes, those closest to you will impact who you will become. Peer pressure  in proximity is strong, so is the influence of mentors and leaders. Choose your friends wisely because they will influence not only your career success but also the wealth you will attain in the future.

Friends

We may deny it, but those around us have the power to influence us. We are constantly picking up on cues from those around us. These cues subconsciously inform and shape our behavior. These behaviors over time become habits, and our habits determine who we become. The influences of our friends are not only behavioral. Who we have around us affect our world view, the way we think and the way we feel about ourselves. As such, our success and in a sense our wealth in life will come down to the people we choose to spend our time with.

Think for a second about the company kept by your financial heroes. Now, contrast this with the financially illiterate and those living on the edge. The friends kept by these two groups are diametrically oppose.

At this moment, consider who are your closest friends. Think of their attributes and how these friends have affected your life. What habits do these friends have that you want? Also identify attributes that you do not wish to adapt? Mostly, do you need new friends? 

Success

To be successful, be around successful people. If you want to be in shape, hang out with those who are healthy. If you want to be happy, surround yourself with happy people. We become those who are around us.

If you want to build wealth and become financially independent, do not have a circle of people around you who are struggling and lack financial discipline. Instead, associate yourself with positive, focused people. Be friends with those who are committed to constant improvement and the pursuit of the best in life. Have friends who will facilitate your journey to wealth and financial independence.

Choose Your Friends Wisely

Remember, while you may not be able to choose your family, you do choose your friends. To be friends with another person, you must agree to have this individual in your life. And while the decision to cut people out of your life may be difficult, tough decisions must be made for you to achieve your goals. 

Be the CEO of your life and demote or fire your friends as needed to achieve your goals. If not, do not be surprise when your ambitions, goals and position in life are at the same level as those around you.

Choose your friends wisely

Conclusion

Show me your five closest friends and I can provide a very accurate description of you. The fact of the matter is that the friends we have not only tells us who we are generally. Our friends influence who we are and who we will become. Yes, those closest to you will impact who you will become. Peer pressure  in proximity is strong, so is the influence of mentors and leaders. Choose your friends wisely because they will influence not only your career success but also the wealth you will attain in the future.

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Do not Become Someone Else’s Retirement Plan

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No matter how hard you work or how much money you earn, you are only a few bad choices from finding yourself in the poor house. Sometimes, the decisions that we make are in view of perceived obligations. For example, many financial decisions are made in view of obligations to family and friends. On your path to financial independence and early retirement, do not become someone’s retirement plan.

Focus On Your Retirement Plan

As the statement goes, put on our oxygen masks first before the person next to  you, including family. This also applies to your plans for retirement. You may be able to make head way in saving toward your retirement by living below your means, saving, and investing. However, it is also easy for a family member or two to constantly ask, manipulate or steal what you have saved. The stories are easily available if you perform a simply search, and should serve as a warning.

What Is Yours Is Theirs

There are so many stories of an individual or a nuclear family making progress by living below their means, saving and investing over time. As this family rises and increases their wealth, it is only natural for families and friends to notice, and notice they will. We can try all we want to hide success, but others will notice how you live your life. While you may try to be the millionaire next door, your close family knows better. While you may drive the standard car and live in a standard house, your family will be well aware of your job and will likely have researched your salary. It is only a matter of time before assumptions are made with regard to your wealth. With assumptions, it is common for others to begin to think that what is yours is also theirs.

As knowledge of your life is shared by family and close friends, you will be seen in a different light. When financial hiccups occurs, you become their bank. If they are having issues with housing, they will show up at your door. If you do not take steps to stop the initial requests or actions, you will pay for it later.

Of course, the proximity to family and friends will matter. The closer you are to those with a specific personality type, the faster the devolution into others thinking that what is yours is theirs. The further away you are, the less interaction and the less issues you may have.

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Do not allow others to block your financial flow

Reason Does Not Matter

It really does not matter if you and others all had the same opportunities. It does not really matter if you choose to live below your means while others live it up. You may sacrifice all you want to maintain your life and that of your family, but it is simply human nature for those around you to think and believe that what is yours is also theirs. Especially when others believe that you have more than you need or that you do not deserve what you have.

What To Do

The fact is, you must learn to say no. You cannot become someone else’s retirement plan. You must stand up for yourself and your family. Others may claim that you are mean, but you must put your oxygen mask on before others. You cannot find yourself bank rolling other peoples lives, especially if these individuals do not understand how hard you have worked for what you have. 

It is all around us. Others have nice cars, vacations and homes that dwarfs the size and costs of yours. However, these are the first to reach out for aid and have a deep seated belief that what is yours is theirs. When times are hard, why do you have so much and they have so little, even though when times were good they had more than you and in effect wasted it.

We are not saying that you should be selfish and not help others. Help others and give. Success is not achieved alone and in isolation. What we are saying is, know what you are doing. Know the consequences of your actions. Know what saying yes today will mean for tomorrow. Do not become another person’s retirement plan. Know when to say no.

Conclusion

No matter how hard you work or how much money you earn, you are only a few bad choices from finding yourself in the poor house. Sometimes, the decisions that we make are in view of perceived obligations. For example, many financial decisions are made in view of obligations to family and friends. On your path to financial independence and early retirement, do not become someone’s retirement plan.

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If You Are Feeling Broke, It’s Ok

Money Maroon

If you are feeling broke, know that it is ok. The feeling of not doing enough or that you are behind as compared to others is a normal. As human beings, we are hard wired to compare ourselves to others. It is natural. It is also natural to feel like you are not where others are when you look at their material possessions. But keep in mind, you are typically only seeing what others are willing to show you. You are not seeing what is going on behind the scenes. Many engage in fake it till you make it and  project a wealthy facade, but are in tough financial straits. Focus on you and do not concern yourself with what others are doing.

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It’s ok to feel broke…. but are you?

The Story

You have likely heard a similar story, but here we go. Around the corner is a neighbor who has one of the most beautiful homes, with an up-kept yard and with hedges always cut. This neighbor has two kids, a dog and two luxury cars which are replaced every few years. The neighbors are very social in the neighborhood, for gatherings, they are the life of the party. These folks take vacations each year to exotic locations, essentially these neighbors are the envy of the neighborhood. They are the picture of the American dream. They exude confidence, money, success and privilege.

Eventually, you may begin to notice some cracks in the happiness of your neighbor and this goes one of two ways. (1) They may stop attending certain events and may downsize the cars and eventually note that they are moving because of work. (2) If they chose to keep up appearances, eventually you or another neighbor may begin to get inquiries about who lives at their home. Typically, these are the early signs of someone hunting for your neighbors assets. It may be their cars or a boat in the back yard. Eventually, one or both cars will be towed away and repossessed. Sooner or later, a sign will be placed on the home that it is in foreclosure. 

It is amazing how often this story plays out.  Keep this story in mind when you begin to think or feel broke or inadequate as compared to others.

You May Not Be As Broke As You Think

The events above is typically shocking to all and will be the subject of much gossip. Some may enjoy seeing this fall from grace but many will be left reflecting on their previously perceived short comings. The fact is simple, you only see what others want you to see. If your neighbor has luxury cars you have no idea if they are leased or owned. You have no idea if they had previously won the lottery, you also have no idea if they have inherently wealth or are up to their eye balls in debt. The moral of the story, do not compare yourself to others.

Live your own life and stay in your lane. Be happy for those who are doing well or appear that they are doing well. Know what you are doing and focus on your financial goals and not what others are doing. It is ok to feel broke, it is normal to compare yourself to others. But do not act in a manner to compete with others. Live your life. Stay in your lane.

Do You

If you are pursing early retirement, do so. While it is difficult not to compare yourself to others, keep focus on your goals. If your aim is to save 50% or more of your income, understand that you may then not have the nicest cars, fashion or take the same vacations as someone who do not save as much as you do. Just remember that we are all on different paths. You may feel broke or inadequate, but your bank account may say otherwise.

Whenever you feel financially inadequate, take a look at your assets. Look at your bank account and know that you are one day closer to your financial goals.

Conclusion

If you are feeling broke, know that it is ok. The feeling of not doing enough or that you are behind as compared to others is a normal. As human beings, we are hard wired to compare ourselves to others. It is natural. It is also natural to feel like you are not where others are when you look at their material possessions. But keep in mind, you are typically only seeing what others are willing to show you. You are not seeing what is going on behind the scenes. Many engage in fake it till you make it and  project a wealthy facade, but are in tough financial straits. Focus on you and do not concern yourself with what others are doing.

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