As I get older, what I have learned time and time again is that it is not about how smart you are. It is really about persistence. Yes, the never give up mentality is one of the most rewarding attribute a person can have. Getting knocked down but getting up and continuing on is a hard lesson to learn. But once you master it, the world is yours.
Learning To Never Give Up
There are certain things that we are each innately good at, and far more things that we are absolutely terrible at. Throughout our lives, we will discover these things on an almost daily basis. How we deal with these discoveries will have a profound impact on our lives.
Do you recall the first time you tried to ride a bike, or for that matter, attacked a difficult math problem? Our success in learning how to ride a bike or solving a math problem is somewhat based on our mentality, but also those around us who shaped that mentality. For example, if the first time you fell trying to ride a bike your parents rushed to you and gave in to your cries to never get on a bike again, it is highly likely that you will never learn to ride a bike. I know a few individuals where this is a reality. The issue here is much larger than learning to ride a bike, you may potentially develop the mentality of trying, failing and quitting.
If on the other hand, you fell, and you decided to get up, or your parents or others around you encouraged you to get up and try again, it is highly likely that you eventually learned how to ride a bike.
Again, this translates to other life events. Now let’s talk about the math problem. The same principle applies. If you are discouraged and give up once you notice that the math problem was difficult, you may never learn how to solve the problem. If you eventually do solve the math problem, you may develop a hatred of math and avoid math at all cost. I am sure you know many individuals who fall into this category.
On the other hand, if you are able to power through the math problem and never give up, not only will you solve the math problem but also appreciate the concept of effort and persistence. These seemingly basic events do have an impactful effect on our lives.
Practice Makes Perfect
Have you ever heard the saying, “Practice makes perfect.” This is only another way of saying never give up. Don’t forget, while Michael Jordan was good, he became great by practicing. For that matter, Usain Bolt lost a number of races before he came into his own and dominate his sport.
Some call it being stubborn. For others, they are classified as having a short memory. It really does not matter what you call it, it is typically a manifestation of pride, self belief, and the never give up mindset.
To bring this close to home, I am certain that you know individuals who may not have been the best at an activity that came naturally to you. Unbeknownst to you, this individual wanted to get better. As it turns out, while you rested knowing that you were good, they practiced, put in the required work and became better than you. This occurs all the time.
Persistence Pays
I have known individuals who are amazingly smart. They are able to grasp new material ridiculously fast and never had to really study. Many of these individuals never achieved their full potential. They took their gift for granted. They thought everything would come easily. However, when they hit an obstacle, they were unprepared to deal with failure. They did not have the tools, mental strength or sadly, they did not have a support system around them.
On the other hand, I know a number of individuals who were not the best. You know these individuals as well. They were likely middle of the pack with regard to academics, but they worked hard, took the long route, persevered and ended up at the top. These were the individuals who did not make the team on the first try, they did not get accepted to their top choice for college, they were rejected from professional school, but instead of giving up, they went back to the drawing board, reapplied themselves and were able to move forward.
The fact is, in life, you will hear a lot more no’s than yes. Get use to it. “No” is an opportunity. Rejection builds character. Never give up!
You Will Hear No Far More Times Than Yes
We have all come across individuals who have not heard “no” very often. These individuals cannot handle rejection and if anything, avoid the possibility of getting a rejection or simply flips out if they are rejected. We all know individuals like this. They are typically not fun to be around. An outburst for the simplest thing is typically just around the corner.
Rejection is apart of life, and if viewed in the right context, rejection can be a huge motivational factor in life. Rarely do we make it through life without being rejected. For many overachievers, rejection is their fuel. That person who other’s may say act as if they have a chip on their shoulder did not become driven by always winning. It is rejection that fuels their fire. The agony of defeat built them mentally to never give up.
For others, if the door was close on one path, they never give up, they simply found another way in. The never give up attitude is exemplified in the winners of life. The earlier we can see failure as an opportunity, the more likely it is for us to succeed. This is true in our financial life and otherwise.
Conclusion
As I get older, what I have learned time and time again is that it is not about how smart you are. It is really about persistence. Yes, the never give up mentality is one of the most rewarding attribute a person can have. Getting knocked down but getting up and continuing on is a hard lesson to learn. But once you master it, the world is yours.
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